Dear Scared White People,

Let’s start off by saying I’m speaking from a place of understanding, because I was scared to speak up too. I don’t claim to know it all and have lots of room to grow. I might even say something wrong in this post. Still, I had to take a long hard look at myself and realize this isn’t about me. By staying silent, I’m contributing to the problem. So let’s break that silence, it’s about damn time I do so.

Here are some reasons that might be holding you back from speaking on this:

  • You’re scared of saying the wrong thing, using the wrong words.
  • You feel uncomfortable talking about it.
  • you’re in introvert and are scared to speak up.
  • You’re scared of receiving backlash or losing followers.
  • You think your platform is too small or insignificant.
  • You want your platform to be a happy space and only be positive.
  • You don’t want to speak on controversial or political topics.
  • You don’t live in America and you think it’s different where you live.

Well I hate to break it to you, but those reasons are not good enough. For one, black people having the right to exist, be equal, and be safe should not be a controversial topic. The fact that it is viewed as a controversial or political topic, is a problem in and of itself. It’s also a problem that still exists everywhere, not just in America. As mentioned before, this isn’t about you. Just because you can be safe and hide from this problem doesn’t mean you should. Black people don’t get to close their eyes and pretend like everything is okay. They have to spend every day being afraid to be pulled over, arrested, put in jail, dehumanized, hurt, or murdered just because of the color of their skin. Just because they are alive. They are treated differently, viewed differently, assumptions made about them before they even get the chance to say anything. They have to think about what to say and do in case they have an encounter with the police, how to prove they don’t pose a threat. They have to teach these things to their children, in order for them to be prepared and be as safe as possible while just living their life. I can’t even begin to imagine the heartbreak of having to teach your child how unjust the world still is and how they are a target because of something they have no control over whatsoever.

Just because something does not affect you personally does not mean it’s not your problem. We cannot keep hiding, we have to be allies, we have to do everything in our power to help end this. Try to set aside your worries about how this reflects on you, set aside your uncomfortableness with the topic. These things are necessary to be able to help and it’s worth it. You don’t have be a public speaker, you don’t have to be the #1 loudest activist. You can start by being vocal about it in your own circles, your friends and family, your workplace or clubs, on your own platform. To reflect on yourself and speak up when you see or hear things that are not right.

As for people saying #AllLivesMatter in response to #BlackLivesMatter. Please stop. Your automatic response might be to feel attacked, but you can decide not to act on that. Please stop yourself in that moment and try to think about it for a second. #BlackLivesMatter does not mean only black lives matter, it means black lives should matter just as much as others do. The reason the #BlackLivesMatter movement exists is because the current system shows that black lives still do not matter as much. Black people still face injustice and inequality on a daily basis. That’s the whole problem! We all already know white lives matter, there’s no point in amplifying that. What are you trying to accomplish when saying #AllLivesMatter? Because the only thing you’re doing is refusing to accept the fact that there is still inequality. You’re undermining the message black people are trying to get across. Is that really what you want?

So what now? Now we self-reflect. See for yourself if you are being part of the solution or the problem, acknowledge where you have not been doing enough, and be better from here on out. Educate yourself. Seek out and listen to black people speaking up about this. Really listen and be open to criticism. Be vocal and actually take a stand against racism, also when you see it in the people close to you. Do whatever you can to support initiatives in the #BlackLivesMatter movement. Sign petitions, donate if possible & share links.

These are the things I will also be working on myself. Not only on this blog but in my daily life. I’m so sorry it has taken something as tragic as the murder of George Floyd for me to finally realize all of this. I’m ashamed to admit it has taken so long for me to truly open my eyes to and see my own contribution to it by not speaking up. I’m sorry it has taken me so long to realize that just trying to be a good person is not enough and being a “silent ally” is not really being an ally at all.

Let’s do better people.

Sincerely,
Nikki


Here is a video I watched today by Ivirlei Brookes @Ivirlei on instagram named “White Women who Truly Want to Help: Here’s how” which goes into way more detail on how to  truly be an ally.

Here are some resources, a place to start:


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Finally, if there is anything in this post that is incorrect or badly worded, please feel free to correct me or be critical in the comments. Though only if you want to do so, as it is nobody’s job to educate me 🙂

Thank you for reading and I hope you have an wonderful day ❤

14 thoughts on “A Letter to White People who are Scared to Speak up about Racism #BlackLivesMatter

    1. Thank you! Yes exactly. It took me way too long to realize that staying silent is way more hurtful than speaking up, really thinking about what you’re saying and maybe saying something with not the best words. At least when you saying something you’re taking a stand against it and not silently allowing it to happen. Thanks for sharing your thoughts 🙂

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  1. Very good post, Nikki, though I still believe that all human lives matter and we should be fighting for justice every time an innocent life is lost no matter person’s race, ethnicity, gender, religion. We are all humans! And I’ve seen a lot of injustice and brutality in my native land with lots of lost lives… 😞

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    1. I’m sorry to hear of the injustice and brutality in your native land. Though I see you are comming from a good place, wanting to see no innocent life lost, I do also think you are kind of missing the point. When saying “Black Lives Matter”, nobody is saying ONLY black lives matter. Saying “Black Lives Matter” is trying to point out that black people are still being treated differently on a daily basis. It’s saying black lives do not matter as much as others in the system that is in place right now. You saying All Lives Matter in response is like saying “no you’re wrong, there is no inequality, because all lives matter already”. So it’s as if you are trying to silence them, trying to devalidate their message, which I’m assuming is not what you want to do? I hope that maybe this makes it more clear 🙂

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      1. Very good point, Nikki! When I say all human lives matter, I do not mean that black, native, female, male, Asian or other lives do not matter. Unfortunately in different parts of the world we still have discrimination and injustice based on different components of our identity: race, ethnicity, gender, social status… 😞What I’m saying is that we should be fighting together for all innocent lives, against all injustice! And I do fully support black lives matter movement.

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        1. I think it’s a great vision to try to fight all different kinds of discrimination and injustice. And to try to help all people wherever you can. My advice would just be to not say All Lives Matter as a direct response to Black Lives Matter, as that will send the wrong message (what I said in my previous comment) and not reflect what you are trying to stand for 🙂

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  2. Although I won’t use my blog to speak out (I do so on Facebook on my personal profile page, not my blog page), I appreciate your posting this. As I Jew, I and my family have been the victims of racism for generations. That said, I acknowledge my skin color affords me a level of white privilege. Therefore, I am both a minority and a majority, and this is why I stand with the victims of racism everywhere and add my voice to the #BlackLivesMatter cause and movement. Thank you!

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